40 things from this book went into her brain. Here are the first 6.
Laozi held that the Tao that can be named is not the enduring Tao, and that the deepest things cannot be pinned down by words.
Laozi observed that the best work gets done without a claim to ownership or a wait for reward, and that this quiet kind of effort lasts.
Laozi noticed that heaven and earth endure because they do not live for themselves, and that a person who puts his own ends last often finds they are still met.
Laozi warned that a full vessel is hard to carry, a sharp edge soon dulls, and success that turns into pride brings its own harm.
Laozi taught that usefulness lives in empty space: a wheel turns on its hollow hub, a pot holds because of its hollow, and a room works because of its open space.
Laozi observed that favour brings the fear of losing it, so being honoured can weigh on a person as heavily as being disgraced.
Laozi noticed that muddy water clears when it is left still, and that a person who is not full of himself can afford to seem unfinished.
Laozi held that the best leaders are hardly noticed, and that when their work is done the people say they did it themselves.
Laozi argued that setting aside cleverness and scheming for gain, and choosing plain and honest ways, would remove much of the trouble in a society.
Laozi noticed that a person who wants few things gets them, while one who wants many goes astray, and that the humble are the ones no one can out-strive.
Laozi observed that wind and rain never last long, so force cannot be sustained, and that steady, natural effort outlasts sudden fierce bursts.
Laozi taught that stillness rules movement, and that a wise leader who travels far still keeps close to his base, since losing steadiness costs him everything.
Laozi said that real skill leaves little trace: the best work gives no grounds for blame and needs no tallies or locks to hold it together.
Laozi held that some things cannot be seized by force, and that whoever grips too hard, whether for power or success, loses what he was after.
Laozi held that victory won by force should be met with sorrow rather than pride, since delighting in it means delighting in the killing.
Laozi drew a line between knowing others and knowing yourself, and said that the person who overcomes himself is mightier than the one who overcomes others.
Laozi said the Tao does nothing for the sake of doing it, so nothing is left undone, and that a leader without desire lets things go right of their own accord.
Laozi noticed that people with the most virtue do not display it, while those who work to keep up a show of it end up with less of it.
Laozi sorted people by how they meet the Tao: the best take it up in earnest, the middle keep it and then lose it, and the lowest laugh at it.
Laozi observed that some things gain by being reduced, and that the violent and strong do not die a natural death.
Laozi said that whoever is content has no reason to fear shame, and whoever knows when to stop meets no blame.
Laozi said that learning adds something each day, while the Way takes away effort each day until a person acts without strain and still gets everything done.
Laozi said that a wise leader has no fixed mind of his own and takes the mind of the people as his own, listening rather than imposing.
Laozi said the great way is level and easy, yet people love the byways, and he warned that a rule of show, with polished courts and empty granaries, runs against the way.
Laozi said that those who truly know do not talk much about it, while those eager to talk about it often do not know it.
Laozi observed that the more rules and prohibitions a state piles up, the poorer its people become, and that too much meddling breeds the trouble it means to prevent.
Laozi described the wise person as a square that cuts no one, straightforward without taking liberties, and bright without dazzling anybody.
Laozi said that stillness often overcomes force, and that a big power gains more by stooping to the small than by pushing them around.
Laozi said that hard things grow from easy beginnings, so the wise deal with a problem while it is still small, and that rash, easy promises usually breed difficulty.
Laozi noticed that people often ruin things just as they near success, and that care at the end should match the care taken at the beginning.
Laozi said that the sea is king of the streams because it sits lower than they do, and that a leader who puts himself behind others is followed without resentment.
Laozi named three treasures: gentleness, economy, and not pushing ahead of others, and he said gentleness can win even in battle.
Laozi counselled that there is no greater calamity than making war lightly, and that the one who grieves over conflict is the one who prevails.
Laozi said that knowing what you do not know is the highest attainment, and that thinking you know what you do not is the real flaw of the mind.
Laozi noticed that a stiff tree invites the axe while supple things keep going, and that leaning only on hardness and force is a risky habit.
Laozi contrasted the way of Heaven, which takes from excess to supply what is lacking, with the way of people, who take from those with little to add to their own surplus.
Laozi observed that everyone knows softness overcomes hardness, yet few put it into practice, and that words which are strictly true often sound like paradox.
Laozi said that sincere words are seldom fine, fine words are seldom sincere, and that the one who truly knows does not need to argue.
Laozi advised that after a bitter quarrel, a person of virtue does not insist on the other side keeping a deal to the letter, since insisting keeps the grudge alive.
Laozi observed that the wise person does not hoard, and that the more he gives to others, the more he finds he has himself.